There’s a certain amount of run-of-the-mill tact and respect for privacy that starts to vanish when someone comes out as trans*. I’m consistently surprised by the kinds of questions people ask me about my partner, and by the things they say to her or us. One of my favorites is when people tell her how lucky she is that she doesn’t have to deal with periods or cramping.
I always think, “Yeah, she’s really jazzed that she doesn’t get to experience fertility and won’t ever have the ability to carry a child. How lucky!” I wonder if cisgender women who have had hysterectomies experience the same misguided conversation about their “luck.”
A very common experience trans* people have is that conversation can tend to veer rather quickly to their genitalia. While I can certainly understand the curiosity, can we all just agree that conversations about one’s genitals are conversations best left under the “personal/private” umbrella? Transitioning doesn’t somehow lift that social contract.